People rely so heavily on the approval of others. Why?
On an article titled, “What drives our need for approval?” on (www.psychcentral.com), the following is stated, “Once our physical needs are met, filling our core emotional needs becomes our number one priority in life.”
This is an entirely logical explanation, around about high school age, potentially, many teenagers start to really get how many things they have that fulfills a physical need. Also from an early age we are expected to do certain things or act certain ways, each case is different but typically, your parents or guardians expect certain things from you. They want you to do certain things because of what you have learned, your age, or anything. Now take this how you will but these expectations are kind of senseless.
The idea of people wanting things from you just because of how you were raised, who your parents or siblings were, or anything really just confuses me. I can see a potential few reasons why you would have some expectations for a child but whenever your child, with free will, makes a decision on their own that a parent or guardian doesn’t agree with, everyone ends up hurt. I don’t understand what makes a parent or guardian's approval so important. Yes, your parent or guardian provides for you, cares for you and likely made you, but once a child reaches a certain age they should be able to make a conscious decision for what they want in the future for themselves.
Or even worse, a couple in a relationship has a concern or an issue and they can’t talk it out or something, they take a break and everything just hits the fan. They break up and don’t talk for months. They have both been shut out of an emotional rise that fulfilled a sense of pleasure, enjoyment and approval. This is something that both individuals require. Being locked out of what once was an open door is something that no one enjoys. Both individuals hurt and want to feel the rise that they had while in the relationship but maybe tensions are still high or outside forces are stopping the people from meeting again, likely for the better??
So, here at the end, I suppose that humans need approval and many things can go against these needs or desires and every person can get hurt. Essentially, be careful out there. Things hurt and fight back, stay safe and do whatever you feel like. Remember that Venus spins backwards and we don’t even really know why so just do whatever you want.